I am so confused tonight.....i dont want to talk to him and hear from him BUT i am mad at him for not trying.....does this make sense to any of yall????...did anyone else go thru this or am I just throwed off????..LOL..... i dont understand this emotional range I am going thru here.....i have been thru my share of break ups but this one is REALLY throwing me for a loop!!!

I think that is a completely normal way to feel. I know in past relationships I've felt the same as you and it is likely that we aren't the only two people on the planet who have dealt with this. Every break up is different, none are great at least when they first happen.

I hope you get past these feelings soon and resume a happy life. Best of luck to you.

Take care,
Patty

I dont know what your situation is or way you "say" you dont want him to call him but to me it sounds like you do want him to call you.You still care for this man and you arent ready to let go.That is a normal emotion to go through girl.I remember when I through my ex out.I wanted him to leave but when I came home and all his stuff was gone I called him to come back.My house just looked so empty....I should have dealt with the little bit of lonelyness then insted of trying to rekindle something that wasent there.Stay strong and ask yourself " why do I really want him to call?" you;re going to be ok girl...this I promise you.

I know exactly how you feel believe me! I know it is better for me not to talk to him but it still does upset me that he doesn't try esp since we have some unfinished business to talk about although I am willing to let it go so I don't have to contact him but I won't lie I wish he would want to talk to me.
Hang in there

I think maybe it is an ego thing...atleast if he tried then i would know he felt something...this way i just feel like it was all a game to him and i am the only one feeling the hurt....ill fill you in a little on my situation....i found out he was still writing letters to another girl he had been involved with while we were split up not long ago....i found out because when i was at hospital the other nite with my dad she showed up there with the stack of letters...they werent lovey dovey really but it was the fact i had quetioned him about her and he had swore he wasnt writing her on more then one occasions....i ended the relationship because he lied to me and if i cant trust him locked up how the heck will i be able to trust him when he gets out..he said he was playing a game with her....but how do i know it isnt me he is playing with...i decided it wasnt worth me putting my life on hold for up to three years since he just signed for three years last week.

When a couple breaks up and the one or both are able to move on without a second look back then it naturally makes us think "if it was that easy to move on then were the feelings real to start with". When one doesnt even try to fight for the relationship then it makes us feel easily replaced or already replaced.

I agree that on some level it is a ego thing. On some very twisted level it makes us feel better to know they are hurting us enough to miss us. If they move on that easy without us then we feel we wernet as important or valued as much as we thougth and that is something that we dont want to face. Even tho we clearly dont want them we still want to know we were worth fighting for

Its really a no win situation. If they dont call then we feel one way, but if they do call we beg them over and over to leave us alone and move on.

Hun, I'm completely here for you through this time, we're going through it together! Our relationships are a bit different than relationships on the outside. I had the hardest time breaking up with him and I couldn't figure out why. It was easy for me in past relationships and when he was home, but everything is harder now. I just feel like I don't get the closure I need. I think you just wish he would call just so you you feel like you had an effect on him. I, myself, wish he would stop calling calling. I wish he could move on, I wish he could let go, I wish he could let me go. Maybe you aren't ready for him to let you go so easy. You never know a call may still come and a letter may still arrive. I still get both, 2 letters a day and at least 3 calls. Be strong sweetie.

Robin it is all about your Ego. You want him to feel the pain that you have been feeling for so long. I think it is normal to feel this way. I know that I don't want to talk to Louis but when he calls I laugh (sounds sick) but it is like a one up kind of thing.. You will get though this just fine!!!! Be strong!!!!

I totally understand how you feel even though its over and i will not call him as he has a new girlffriend it really bothers me that he doesnt even call i mean I have been with the man on and ogff for 15 years and he just can forget so easily I know it is my ego because i deserve better but it really bothers me that he doesnt even care at all to see how I am.

I feel this! I think I would be some what upset if Josh didn't try to talk to me because we have been together for awhile now. I mean I would view it has him just giving up and not caring about me, know what I mean? I am sending you lots of positive thoughts :D

HUGS

Mel

Of course it is totally normal to feel like that!! Even if we don't want them anymore, we all want them to throw themselves on the floor and beg us to come back and say they made the biggest mistake of their lives...

Well, at least I do LOL... yes it's ego, but also if you loved someone once, I am sure that little bits of that love will always be there inside you somewhere. You wouldn't be human if they weren't.

And of course many times out heads want one thing and our hearts another, sigh...

Hope you feel better soon....

Hang in there hon. I'm sure he'll call, just give him a little more time. It's a typical "man thing" to not call right away. It seems like but don't worry, he'll call. Try and keep your mind off him, if you can. It helps a lot to keep busy doing things, anything. Time goes faster and before you know it, the phone is ringing. Good luck to you and hang in there, k?
Love, Sheila :thumbsup: :o

I have the same feelings as you, but my situation played out a little different and I actually keep my computer online so my voice mail picks up and I am terrified of him showing up here. One, I don't have the emotional strength or the mental acuity to deal with him in his present condition and I DON'T want to.

He treated me like my ex did and destroyed 4 years of counceling. He did it deliberately and I don't want to hear from him. I am grateful that I had the strength
to tell him to leave and called his PO.

He knew I was the best damn thing to ever happen to him and as far as I am concerned it is his loss. He chose that life and I won't live it with him.

i actually got a call last nite from the jail....but not from him......he had one of his cellies call me and tell me he is sick and wanted to know if i would call and get him into medical...our jail is famous for ignoring medical request if they dont have anyone on the outside calling and raising hell...so i told the guy i would call and try and get him into medical but to please make sure B understand that this is in no way because i want to rekindle anything but i am not so cold herated that i want to see him lay up there sick with noone to help him. Yes i feel kinda stupid for making the call which I just made and they said they would schedule him in first thing this mornin....BUT....I guess I am just to kind hearted for my own good sometimes...i dont know....it has me feelin gulty about turning my back on him cause he really does not have anyone else...his parents sent him a letter saying they wish they would never had adopted him and since his parents feel this way his sister has turned her back on him also....yes know he brought it on himself...i dont know i am rambling here and just really confused.