View Full Version : Time For Me To Move On


Dinky
03-25-2005, 12:55 AM
Hey everyone!

Yes, it is time for me to move on. I have managed to do six months with him when I realized I just can't do it anymore. It's too painful for me to put my life on hold for a man who'd doing his second prison sentence, all because he made a mistake and accidently drugged my neice. He got two years and I thought I could wait, I thought I loved him that much! But as time has gone on it got harder to go visit him, it got harder to write him, it got harder to talk to him on the phone and that was when I knew I just couldn't do it any longer. We've been through too much, too many fights, too many break ups to try to repair what has been done! Some days are easier than others...... The letters keep coming and even though I put a block on my phone, he got a debit card to keep calling, trying to find out what is going on. I have not written him a break up letter, I simply refuse to give him an explanation as to why I've left, he could never give me an explanation as to why he did what he did, so why should I? I do miss him, and I do still love him but I know that I'm giving up my happiness and my freedom waiting for him! Every day I get just a little bit stronger in this recovering stage of my life! I'm glad I found PTO and I'm so very glad that I have gotten so much support through all of this, I wouldn't know what to do without you all! Thank you so much!

Helen
03-25-2005, 01:51 AM
I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through, Dinky. I know how you feel as I'm in a similar situation. Perhaps if you send him a short letter, explaining how you feel, the phone calls will stop. If you have just stopped writing and taking his calls he will be confused and wonder what has happened.
Helen.

rosibaker50
03-25-2005, 03:46 AM
Dinky, looks like we are all going through this together. we will always support u and the decisions make. But like Helen said maybe u could write him just a short letter. be bigger than he is. we will always be here for u am hope & pray u find happiness in ur life...rosi

AmyLynn
03-25-2005, 04:11 AM
Dinky I just want you to know that I'm here for you... HUGS

coolchik4sure
03-25-2005, 05:00 AM
Dinky~ :wave:

Sorry you're going through this but maybe it's for the best. :yes: We've talked about how tough these relationships are, in the BEST of circumstances!

I haven't been around much b/c of my own "issues", but I am here for you and I support you 100%! :heart: You are a great person and deserve to be happy! :D

And, in my humble opinion , you should handle him in YOUR way...I'm sure you have been left confused and baffled, so if you do not feel like writing, calling or visiting to "explain," that's your choice! Do what's best for you!! ;)

strangeanimal
03-25-2005, 06:18 AM
Dinky

I understand trying to stand behind them for their bit, then realizing you can't do it anymore. It's a sign that you need to do a change...but please write him a quick short note, straight and to the point. It could be closure for both of you.

twsbabygirl
03-25-2005, 06:31 AM
dinky girl u know i am here for u and love u girl.....we will get thru our breakups togather...i know it is hard but u will make it...keep ur head up we are here for u

Robin

marriola482
03-25-2005, 09:46 AM
Dinky, so sorry to hear that you are going through this but of course you need to do what's best for you. I wish you all the best.

California Sunshine
03-25-2005, 09:51 AM
Dinky I'm sorry to hear this,no matter how a relationship ends it is always hard.We are here for you
HUGS

jeffsprincess
03-25-2005, 09:51 AM
Girl you are doing the right thing for YOU and that is who matters right now. Yes, it is going to be a little difficult but you will get through this. We are all here for you! Keep your head up girl!

Dinky
03-26-2005, 03:33 AM
I cannot believe all the support! :) Thank you all so very much! Yes, this is hard for me but I'm strong and I will manage! Thank you all once again! I don't know what I'd do without everyone here!

Kobe16
03-28-2005, 12:11 AM
Hey Dinky!!

Girl you know I'm here for you too!!! And you already doing better so that is a plus!!:thumbsup: Holla whenever ok? love ya!

swtmel
03-28-2005, 09:30 AM
((HUGS))

I can completely understand how hard it is. Sometimes writing those letters or going for visits is difficult. I know that you made the best decision for yourself. I hope that you find all the support that you need right here :D

Mel

Luann
03-28-2005, 10:41 AM
Dinky,
I know its hard for you, but you are doing the right thing by putting you happiness and well being 1st.. Good luck to you in everything you do.. stay strong
Just my opinion, I think you should write to him and tell him..

joenash4lyf
03-28-2005, 11:33 AM
Sorry to hear this..All I know is tht it is improtant for you to be happy..Take care of yourself alright.God has your prince in waiting..Take care