My son has been home for almost 9 months now! (He got "shock probation" after being sent to Huttonsville Correctional Center in WV for 4 to 40.) I'm still paying for the lawyers, but it has really been worth the pain and effort. He is doing everything he is supposed to do, working daily, paying for a vehicle and tools, paying his insurance and cell bill, paying restitution, going to church....Best of all he just got his contractor's license!!

The only thing I would love to see him change is his girlfriend. I just hope he "wakes up" before he marries her or she gets pregnant. She's not smart or educated and she's too dumb to be funny. She has bad manners. She dresses badly. She works for minimum wage and doesn't have a car, but she blows every dime she gets. She's in very poor physical health because of an accident. She has BAD family ties. And, she is not even very pretty and you can tell that any merits in that department will be long gone in very few years. She has a LOT of BAD SCARS, her hair looks like it is coming back in after chemotherapy and she plucked all of he eyebrows out which makes her look even stranger. What on Earth could he see in her?

My son has been home for almost 9 months now! (He got "shock probation" after being sent to Huttonsville Correctional Center in WV for 4 to 40.) I'm still paying for the lawyers, but it has really been worth the pain and effort. He is doing everything he is supposed to do, working daily, paying for a vehicle and tools, paying his insurance and cell bill, paying restitution, going to church....Best of all he just got his contractor's license!!

The only thing I would love to see him change is his girlfriend. I just hope he "wakes up" before he marries her or she gets pregnant. She's not smart or educated and she's too dumb to be funny. She has bad manners. She dresses badly. She works for minimum wage and doesn't have a car, but she blows every dime she gets. She's in very poor physical health because of an accident. She has BAD family ties. And, she is not even very pretty and you can tell that any merits in that department will be long gone in very few years. She has a LOT of BAD SCARS, her hair looks like it is coming back in after chemotherapy and she plucked all of he eyebrows out which makes her look even stranger. What on Earth could he see in her?

Obviously, he sees a beauty that you don't see. Since he seems to have gotten the most important things done as far as coming out of prison, perhaps relationships will come later. I would just give him time and see where it leeds to.

The power of prayer is awesome. So lots of prayers going up your way.

Welll, if everything else is going well I wouldnt worry about the girlfriend so much. He is doing good and be proud of that. if he loves this girl there isnt much you can do about it...just keep focused on all the good he is doing. Congrats to the both of you for a successful homecoming.

I understand about girlfriends who don't have a lot going for them. My step-son is a handsome, outgoing, wonderful young man. He really has always been able to be with anyone he wants. Then he met "her". I believe we all have some beauty but this poor girl -- the only thing she has going for her is him. She is whiny, possessive, uneducated, no class, very backward in many ways. My step-son is attracted to her because she is needy and he loves to help and teach others. I have tried so hard to help her, but not offend her. We did okay until I asked her to keep out of a conversation I was having with my step-son. She slapped me and sent my glasses flying. She went to jail and they asked my input on sentencing. I just suggested she go to anger management and counseling and that was her sentence, plus probation. She does thank me for suggesting that and says it has helped her a lot, but she has not changed. She confuses me, but I truly think she just is not smart enough to get it. She cannot be too smart since she is approximately one-half my size. I am civil to her but feel I must be to save problems in the family because now they are engaged and she is definitely going to be part of the family. I just pray she does not talk him out of college. I truly don't care about looks but when the inside is not very pretty it is accentuated on the outside. I don't want to lose my step-son so I don't say anything to him about her. I just keep hoping he might feel different once he goes to college.

Boy did you all tell some stories! I feel for you. I'll say this... my son's girlfriends past or present would not DARE slap me. :mad: And they know it too! I'm sorry that happened to you.

I have a son who is dating too. I have raised him and his sister by myself for many many years. We are very close and he has a ton of respect for me and that's something that I value and treasure.

My son and I have talked alot about dating and what kind of women he likes. He tells me that he choses to date girls that are very similar to me in many ways and he even choses girls who like the things that I like. He openly tells people that he is very proud of me and my accomplishments, so why wouldn't he chose a potential mate that's like his Mom?

I am a very forthright independant woman who can do many things. I am very mechanically inclined and have always worked manual labor jobs. I am also college educated, so the young ladies he meets must have plans to go to college. He is a very bright young man and has full plans to pursue his college degree as well.

I have told him that he needs to date someone that makes him happy not me. I know my son wants to please me and I keep telling him that it isn't about me and that it is his choice. I have taught him that looks are only skin deep and a person can be beautiful on the outside, yet very ugly on the outside. He definitely agrees too.

I am a very lucky Mom cause every girl that my son takes an interest in, well he compares her to his Mom. ;) He is a very handsome young man and is very choosey as to who he dates. He is now dating a very nice young lady that I really like. She's no beauty queen but has the natural beauty.

I trust my son completely in his judgment and I have told him so.