Hey, Fed-X, we need an absconder forum.

Guess what? The sorry a** called last night! He wants to talk to me. He is furious about what all I did. He left a message on my machine.

Nothing about, "I'm sorry for destroying your car, breaking your heart, hurting your kids". It was all Jason, Jason, Jason. I called his mom(she has been through tons of programs with him)and she told me he is trying to lay a guilt trip on me. She said, "You have to remember, your talking to a drug, not Jason". I spent the afternoon with her(Jason would never let me meet her or her sister and now I know why!)and she was a great source of info on Jason and comfort. I can call her anytime day or night and she'll talk me down or explain something to me.

He said something about taking off. He said something about writing me a letter.

And he said, (get this) "If you want us to end like this..... "I was like, "What the hell"??????? Your doing drugs. You ran off. You are sc***ing another woman!!!!! I think he ended it a while ago!!!!!!

I am so grateful for all you girls and your understanding and wonderful support. I have come down, but I haven't crashed. I have wonderful support here at home. My brother is just waiting to see him. I hope they get him soon. He was treating me like my ex. and I have been in therapy long enough to see the signs and put on the brakes. But he is making me feel like my ex. did and I am keeping my doors locked and afraid to answer the phone. I refuse to live like this. I just can't deal with his sh*t and I don't want to.

His family is done with him. All of them. They can't let him do this to them anymore. His Mom told me he is going to contact you and I asked why and she said, "You are the first woman in his life to show him your not taking any of his s**t"!!!!!.

Hey Luna,
Good to see you are feeling ok. No matter what I hope you continue to come here. We love you here at PTO and want the best for you. If at any time he comes to your house call 911.

Take care
ONE

Luna,
I think you have a great idea, what do we when they abscound??? The court says there a danger to all of us... I went thru this too.. God I hate this.. Why do we believe in these losers? I would like to see a forum on women who heve given there heart and soul to these men to be nothing but abused. I don't know about you but I keep fighting,,... I guess I'm tired...

Girl I felt like I didnt know where to post either at first but we can post anywhere we want on PTO we fit in anywhere even if our relationships are over and didn't end good we do have a story to tell,support to give and support to recieve.A few staff members helped me realize that when I was feeling all kinds of out of sort and like I didn't know where or if I fit in

I am so glad his Mom was a comfort to you!

oh and yah I agree about the call if YOU want it to end like this? HA thats a good one! Phoey on him and mine as well :blah:


Hang in there Luna HUGS

Luna.... I don't really have too much to say.... except I'm sorry... I hope that you and your family can heal quickly and completely from all of these hurtful scars he's left you. I'm thinking of you and praying for you.

Lunachild I'm sorry Jason is putting you through this hell, but very happy that you are able to find some comfort from his family and are able to understand him more now that you get to speak with his mother. I hope you are able to move on soon and have a more positive future, because you deserve so much better!! HUGS!!

I am so sorry this has all happened to you but I think you should feel free to post anywhere and everywhere you would like. Your advice is always needed and there are tons of people here to support. Nothing should change cause you arent with him anymore. Keep your head up!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Luna, just wanted to drop in and say hi and :hugs: for what you are going through. I know its hard, but it sounds like you are determined to get thru this and make a better change for YOU!

I have believed from the beginning of this path I started that I was a winner, I refuse to believe that loving a man in prison is wrong.. it's not, only the way we precieve ourselfs is the losing point, I personally love, and refuse to believe because I love a man who is less than.. That I am less than.. He is.. not me and if he chosses to continue on a path of distruction, I have limints . I will walk and I have.. I just hope we all feel good enough about outselves to know when enough is enough....

Luna~It is important for those with loved ones returning home to hear the good the bad and the ugly so i hope you will continue to post here.

Hugggz,
Patty

luna ~ i hope nothing but the best for you and your kids. and his mom is right, you are dealing with the drug not jason. i understand what you are going thru and it is so hard at times but we understand and are hear for you. you will get thru this one and all of this will be a distant memory one day. much love to you and your family. god bless all of you in this situation ~emm

Sorry you have to go through this, but no matter how much you love him, don't give in! I'm going through something similar with my sister. At first I didn't believe it and helped her, gave her money etc. Now I KNOW, it's the drug, not my sister and I cut her off totally! and that's my blood. Not a very easy thing to do, but I can relate to what you are going through! P.M. me if you ever want to talk about it!

Luna, I am so sorry that you have had to go through this, but so many would like us to believe in fairytale endings and like Patty said, all of us need to know the good and the bad. You are a remarkable strong woman. Stand up and be proud. I know I am of you.

Sorry you are going through this.. and yes, it is the drug that has taken him over... I dealt with that too with my now-ex.. it isn't fun....

Hang in there and it will get better... time heals all wounds.. Hugs...