View Full Version : The proverbial s**t is going to hit the fan.....


lunachild
02-20-2005, 08:43 PM
I've had enough. More than enough. I am starting to feel like I did whenever I had to face my ex. I fear Jason and how he makes me feel about myself. I don't want to see him.

After I talked to a PTO friend, she knows who she is:), his mother called. (The phone call that came in?)

Well she asked me when I had seen Jason last. I told her yesterday morning.
She told me Jason's sister had called her, hysterical, because Jason showed up at her house this afternoon, couldn't even talk or stand up. With some girl in a car I might add. He's hitting it again. He also has a 9 o'clock curfew.

I called his PO and turned him in. If he doesn't show up Tuesday at the PO office, they are going to issue a warrent for his arrest. His mother and sister are done. They are not even going to talk to him. He had it made here. We were making plans and getting stuff accomplished. The most beautiful place to live. He torpedoed that. I can't do this anymore.

I love him but I can't go on like this. He is avoiding me, saying mean things to me, taking off for days at a time. He is trying to blame all our problems on my mental health issues and I ain't having it. My ex blamed me for everything. It is his responsibility to take care of himself. He needs to grow up.

His sister apoligized to me for him saying the things he has to me, and I told her don't ever apoligize for him. He has to do that. It's not your fault or my fault. It's his problem. I told them both, tough love. They agree. He had everything going for him here. I thought he was going to make it.

Right now I am so mad, I'm zoomin. But, overall, I think I am doing good. I just feel like I made a positive move for my life. I am sure the pain will set in. I have a lot of support. A few phone calls and I would have a redneck calvary here:) I am worried about him coming here like he was at his sisters. His PO said to call the state police if he shows up here like that. I have a crazy a$$ friend staying here now. Jasons not violent, but I don't know his state of mind or what he is doing.

I am going to write everyone I know about trying to get him into a theraputic community. He is going to lose two months street time and add that to what he has left on parole he has time for a community. It is totally immersed counceling and drug rehab for 1-18 months. He'll be in a med. security prison but all they do all day is counceling and drug rehab.

He's going to hate me, but maybe, some day, he will realize just how much I actually did love him.

deb
02-20-2005, 08:46 PM
(((hugs))) luna... Everything you're doing for him sounds like it's from love for him as a person... I hope it all works out and he gets the help he needs....

Deb

HotLatinaMILF4U
02-20-2005, 08:46 PM
Lunachild~You are an amazing person and I feel you in many many ways. You did what was best for all involved so please don't second guess yourself. If ever you need me you know how to find me.

Much Love,
Patty

danielle
02-20-2005, 08:56 PM
(((HUGS))) to you. Best wishes to you. It must have been very, very difficult and I hope and pray he gets help.

Best wishes to you.

California Sunshine
02-20-2005, 09:11 PM
Ah Luna I'm sorry girl.I second Patty you are a truly amazing person and I think you are a very strong woman wether you realize it or not.It took strength to do what you did and to realize that although you love him this is not good for you.

HUGS and lots of love coming your way

cawillia
02-21-2005, 12:14 PM
I truly admire you for what you did. There is no doubt how much you love him - you did the right thing. You are amazing.

1dayatatime
02-21-2005, 12:24 PM
Luna,
I have been thinking about you and wondering how things were going. ((but I didnt want to bother you). I think you have made the right choice. Stay safe. IF you feel like you may harm you or the kids call 911 immediately.

So if he shows up at the po's on time tomorrow what happens.

Take care and PM anytime. You are in my prayers.
ONE

Lilboobooev
02-21-2005, 12:31 PM
Oh I am so sorry to hear this has to happen to you (or to anyone that has gone through this mess) ...i remember when my man would be gone for 2 or 3 days on a "mission" and i would be devestated at times hopeing he made it back home before he got caught or worse...but trust i am here for him now but if the day he gets out he pulls that stunt again he is out! I dont blame you girl its not easy! I know you will be ok and its time you do for you and make sure you are happy! :grouphug:

Manzanita
02-21-2005, 12:32 PM
I might not know your entire situation but I have been seeing your posts over the years and I am sorry it is ending this way ((((((HUGS))))))) Hang in there girlie, things will be ok for you, you seem very courageous....

Take Care of YOU! ;)

blueeyes97603
02-21-2005, 05:57 PM
Luna,
You do love him and maybe in fact saving his life. I have a family member in prison for meth and he is a hardcore addict. He would be dead right now if his wife had not turned him in for voilating. He was caught is some meth on him and some other things. Bottomline is that if Randy was out he would be dead. I know that doesnt help at the moment but since he has been in Randy realized that being inside has saved his life. He understands why his wife did what she did. B

marriola482
02-21-2005, 06:51 PM
I just wanted to say that I'm sorry that all this has happened. Here's wishing you a bright, successful, and promising future.