My family met jamie alittle while beofre he commited his crime and didnt know him the way I do. I love him so much!!! They dont know we still talk or are together and they always have comments of jamie and what he did. I feel as if I am going to marry this man and if I do and they dont stand by me so be it. If you were in my shoes would you leave your man to make your family happy? or stay together becuase your in love and be alone? I would be alone but I know that one day I will have to tell them and I hate thinking about it. I wish they would just be happy for us. :(

My family doesn't know that I am still in contact with my guy either. My father is a retired CO and my brother is a current CO. I don't know how they will respond when they find out and finally meet him. I worry about that a little but not to much because I don't know when that day will come. If my family doesn't stand behind me then that is their loss. They don't have to like my guy to accept me. They just have to accept my decisions and respect him. I won't be alone because I will have his family who is supportive and likes me. I think that it will be hard for my family to get past but I think that in time they will, especially after they get to know him and see us together. Good Luck to you!

you have to follow your heart on this one hun. i never want to have to chose between family and the man i love. but if you always leave who you love to please family then they will have you alone and lonely for a long time cuz theyre never guaranteed to like who you love, so you have to ultimitley please yourself. if your family truly loves you, though they may be mad in the beginning, they will eventually come around to understand your love for your guy and accept that youre with him.

Family is unconditional. If they would "leave" you over anything, you are better off without them in your life.
Your position is common, there are a lot of women on this board who have had to make this choice. Then there are many who keep our men secret so we can continue to have the support of our families.
I don't have any advice for you except: You need to take care of yourself (and your children if you have any). If you don't, no one else will. Only you know what is best for you, what will make you happy and what you want out of life. For most of us, we will never be the children our parents want us to be. So, as the parents and older family members, they have a responsibility to accept you for who you are and not try to change you or make your decisions for you.
I wish you peace,