My husband finally came home this past Aug. 2nd after serving 15 years in prison. I was so excited to start our new life and still so much in love even after 15 years. I was somewhat hesitant about our relationship because before he was incarcerated, he had cheated on me more times than I could count. Perhaps that should have taught me a lesson? But this man was an addiction with me...one I couldn't let go.

We seemed to be in love...but we argued alot. Most of our arguments centered around "power trips."... who was going to have control in the relationship. I gave him everything he could possibly want as far as material things. I am retired and financially secure but I did expect him to look for a job and do his part to contribute to the finances. He never really looked for work. Any job I suggested didn't pay enough.

I grit my teeth and kept silent. On Oct.24th, we were on our way home. He was driving my new Cadillac that I had just purchased a month prior. We were on the interstate and he missed our exit. He then proceeds to make an illegal u turn on the interstate and pulls out directly in front of a vehicle going 65 mph. Naturally, my side of the car was hit. The impact threw the car 75 feet into the median. The driver of the other vehicle was not injured as he was saved from injury by his airbags. My husband suffered a small cut above his eye but was immediately able to exit my Cadillac. I, on the otherhand was very seriously injured. I was transported to the nearest trauma medical center. The doctors told my family that I had 24 hours to live. I suffered a collapsed right lung, shattered vertebrae in my neck, six ruptured ribs, a shattered pelvis, a shattered sacrum and nerve damage that has resulted in "drop foot." I just came home this past Sunday after three and a half months of medical care. I have just been given the ok to bear weight and must learn to walk again.

Needless to say, my husband and I are no longer together. I can't understand how he could have such disregard for my safety or my life for that matter. He never once apologized for his ignorance. He merely told everyone it was an accident. It isn't an accident when you deliberately break the law. It is sheer stupidity.

Wow, I really don't know what to say other than I am sorry that you had to go through all of that. I am glad you survived your accident, and I really hope and pray that your life can return to normal very soon.

I am so sorry to hear your story. I wish you the best and a continuous positive journey on the road to recovery. You will get through this and you are a very strong woman for sharing your story.

I don't know what to say either, other than I'm glad you are still alive and doing better. We all live and learn, just close that chapter and move on the best you can.

I'm very sorry to hear this however I am glad you are alive and well to tell us this story.

I am sorry. You are in my prayers. Take care of yourself. Some people never learn about breaking the law.

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I am very sorry this happened to you. you just have to wonder what he was thinking, and how could he?

I am sorry for all you have been through. I'll be praying for your recovery. If you ever want to chat I'm only a PM away...

Hugggz,
Patty

I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened to you. I wish you all the best for the future.

I am so sorry to hear this happened to you. God Bless and many prayers for your continued recovery, physically and mentally..........

A CAR CAN BE REPLACED - HE CAN BE REPLACED - YOU ON THE OTHER HAND? JUST THINK OF THIS AS ONE OF LIFE'S MANY LESSONS.

DEVOTE THE NEXT 15 YEARS TO YOURSELF. I HOPE YOU DON'T MAKE THAT WRONG TURN EITHER. YOU SOUND VERY SURE OF YOURSELF. MAYBE THIS IS JUST WHAT YOU NEEDED TO REALIZE YOU NEED TO LET GO.

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU FRIEND.

i'm so very sorry this happened to you.I pray for a speedy recovery and I'm glad to see you are back.Blessings

(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) I am so incredibly sorry to hear this. it is ridiculous!! I am happy to hear that you are alive - you are blessed. God bless you. GOOD LUCK in the future! :)

May God Bless You for standing by him all those years. I'm so very sorry for the pain you have suffered because of this heartless man. You sound like a wonderful person who would've done anything for him. I truly believe in Karma. Karma will come around and wonderful things will happen to you for all you've been through. Stay strong and I will keep you in my prayers.

I can't believe that he wasn't even man enough to apologize, but I am glad to hear you are in recovery. Please take care of yourself.

MAJAMES02A CAR CAN BE REPLACED - HE CAN BE REPLACED - YOU ON THE OTHER HAND? JUST THINK OF THIS AS ONE OF LIFE'S MANY LESSONS.

DEVOTE THE NEXT 15 YEARS TO YOURSELF. I HOPE YOU DON'T MAKE THAT WRONG TURN EITHER. YOU SOUND VERY SURE OF YOURSELF. MAYBE THIS IS JUST WHAT YOU NEEDED TO REALIZE YOU NEED TO LET GO.

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU FRIEND.
ANYWAYS I TOTALY AGREE... IAM SORRY AND UR IN MY PRAYERS... EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON... I HOPE YOU REALIZE YOUR REASON... :o

I'm so sorry that you have been put through this. Its very unfortunate how your there for somebody all these years and then they turn on you. You are a very fine person, God is looking down on you and he will reward you for all you have done and all you have been through. Good luck and God bless you and your future...........

I was just wondering......do you guys have kids together? Where is he now?

That is crazy that he wasnt even apologetic about what happened. I am glad that you are ok . i wish you the speediest of recoveries.

We don't have any children. He is living with his mom and still unemployed. He went to court for the accident. He wasn't charged with anything the night of the accident because the State Trooper needed to know the outcome of my condition...wether I lived or died. If I would have died, he would have been charged with Vecicular Homicide which in my state carries about a 6 year sentence. As it turned out, the judge charged him with making an illegal u turn and a seat belt violation which cost him about $300.00!!!

Incredible! I'm so sorry for your pain. I hope you will soon put this behind you and wish you all the best you certainly deserve it.

Big Hugggz,
Patty

May God Bless You for standing by him all those years. I truly believe in Karma. Karma will come around and wonderful things will happen to you for all you've been through. Stay strong and I will keep you in my prayers.I'm so sorry about the accident. I think it's awful how he tried to play Mr. Hot Rod I Got This and got you messed up. I'm also sorry that he took advantage of your kindness taking it as a weakness. He sounds like a wreckless fella and that's on him because there's gonna be a train wreck in his life and he ain't gonna know why. He don't realize it now, but he messed with the wrong lady by doing this to you.

Because you can't change what's past but can control what happens in the future, look to your future, beginning by looking for the lessons to be learned from your relationship with that man. This way, you can apply those lessons learned in your next relationship. This was not your fault, however if you look back on yall's relationship you should be able to see some things that you can do differently in your future relationships. If you don't get anything out of what happens then it's all meaningless. It's when you can get something positive out of the situation that puts the meaning to things. Your reward is in the lessons learned because that will make for a smarter and stronger you.

It's the woman who doesn't learn from her experiences who will repeat her patterns and then wonder why things just don't work out for her. I'm sorry for all the pain that happen in just a couple months after so many years of you extending yourself.

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I agree with CDELRIO -- People really do take karma for granted. Folks do stuff and skate thru life like "see, nuthin happened to me -- karma schmarma -- no such thing." But it's not over, because there is seed in him, so what he's got coming may not come to him, but will come to him thru his seed. That's why they say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree -- if the ugly that a person does doesn't come back to them it will come back on their child, and maybe even their grandchildren too.

I remember seeing the sweetest cutest little boy on a visit some years back. I told my husband, "Honey, look at his face (half was deformed/half was fine)." I matter of factly told him God didn't do that to that boy -- look how sweet and cute he is -- that's what God did for the boy -- create a sweet child. I told him one of his parents did something that was not right and it came back around in their child.

That man may think he's Mr. All About Himself, but actually, I feel sorry for him because he gon get hit with something that he has no idea. The sad part there -- someone else's life could be dragged into his mess because an unsuspecting woman could have his child and then what he had coming will come around in her child and she won't know why. I feel bad for you, but I really feel real sorry for him because he's clueless to the harm he's doing TO HIMSELF while believing that he's only harming others.

Try to feel better and know that it wasn't you but that it was him and that you are more than likely not the only woman he's done something like this too.