My fiance' is in Tehachapi Level II dorm 6, I need urgent assistance from someone who's husband or fiance' is in the same level.
Sorry If I ramble on or don't make sense, I've been crying non stop searching for answers.
I went to visit my fiance' along with my daughter, to surprise him, since I had told him last when I saw him I could make it. I only did it cause my daughter was crying for him.
Last week visit was fine,he did tell me he got caught with some of that good ole homemade booz I think it was 5 bottles I cant remember. He told me the story behind it, which I can't get into but I believed him.

Anyhow, he was suppose to get out Feb 26th, but I told him he better hope that they dont give him more time. He was supposed to let me know what the Senior officer was going to tell him , since it was another CO who caught him.

Well, got up at 2 this morning to be there early so I could get processed quickly. When I got there they handed me a white paper that the Inmate requested that I be taken off the visiting list.( Which I don't understand)
Then on the bottom half it has a big X across but in one tiny box there is a check on the 6 month suspension?

I've been so sick I dont know what to do, my whole body wont stop shaking. We have been with each other for almost a year, he even got my name across his chest. I was the only one who cared and visited him, not his kids.
If he got his visits suspended why would it say Inmates request. I just saw him last weekend, I would go every weekend then started going every other weekend since it was getting close for him to get out.
I feel Like I want to vomit,my eyes are so puffy from crying . I hurt so much for my daughter too, her real dad never was in the picture.

PLEASE HELP ME...........

We were a couple, at first he wanted to get married in there, but I told him since this was my first marriage I wanted to wait. He got my name right on his fine chest, we were supposed to get married when he got out and after he finished his program in the home, which was mandatory. I had seen him on the 17th everything was fine, and then I get the boot. Im thinking he is mad at himself for getting extra time, and doesn't think I would stand by him any longer. But he started acting a bit different when he started the SAP program. They told him he had no time for a relationship and he needed to work on his kids which are teens, and work on himself. He handled everything the wrong way, he cant call he is on phone restriction. I need answers and until I get them from his mouth, I won't rest, and my blodd pressure will stay high, Ive tried to relax and I can't.

I split this from the original thread that you posted in. I feel as if you will get a better response if it were seperate. I know that you are a new member and if you have any questions about PTO and how to work everything, please do not hesitate to send me a PM. I am also moving this to California, so the wonderful people there can help you as well.

Melissa
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Have you tried to call the prison to see why you have been removed from his list? I would definitly try to get some answers from the prison until you can speak with your fiance. Have you written to him?

Calm down mami if thats possible, i will pray for you ... i dont know much about this but i do know that whenever i have a problem i call my loved ones cousler at the prison and usually get all the information i need... pm me if you need anything

I'm sorry to hear this.I'd try to call and see why you were removed from his list IF they will tell you,try calling his counseler as well and write him a letter to ask what in the world is going on

Gosh I am so sorry, my boyfriend is in Tehachapi also, but he is in reception and is being transfered to Centila. Have you written to him? I think that he probably feels really bad and has let you down. I would do the same as the others think by making some calls and getting some answers, until then hang in there and try not to be to upset until you find out exactly what is going on.

Thanks everyone, I'm still boggled at the whole thing. And yes I have written to him everyday for a week straight. Ya think by now he would have recieved them, my health has gone downwards, I'm under doctors care and haven't been able to return to work until next week. So even if he is on phone restriction, if he really wanted to get word to me he would have had a friend call me. As for the counselor I don't know who his new one is, since the one he had before got fired. The paper I recieved stated it was the inmates request that I be taken off the visiting list. Im telling you this mess started after he got into the SAP program. Today my daughter wrote johnnie a letter and I about broke down, she asked him why he doesn't want to be her dad anymore. I sent the letter off, she misses him and I hear her cry for him. She told me she prays for him. My nerves are so shot that If I did call over there, I would start crying and I dont' want to end up in the hospital again.
I love him and I'm willing to stand behind him down a rough journey that lies ahead, but until I get some word, all I can do is shed tears.

I had this happen to me when my brother was busted inside for something. They used that white form and it said "Inmate request" but, my brother said he never did any of that....it was just because he got busted that they wouldn't let him se us. I really DO believe it might be because he's on a 6 month restriction. They might have just used that same white form.

Give it like 2 weeks max for him to get some of your mail. You never know what the mailroom is going to do! Does anyone else visit him that can go and visit him for answers?

You're in my prayers. Stay as calm as you can. No point in sending yourself to the hospital over it until you actually DO hear from him.

Good luck, hun!

Thanks, that gives me a little bit of hope, cause he did get busted in there,what a dumb nut, he was close to his release date too. I even bought his clothes and essentails so when he got out, he wouldn't have to worry about that stuff. When his friend called he did tell me "you know he got extra time", I played it off like I knew. But I won't rest until I hear from Johnnie in a letter or he sneaks on the phone or his buddy calls.
((((((((( I LOVE JOHNNIE)))))))

I am so sorry you are going through this, I make myself physically sick too when I get upset from things. How long does it usually take for him to get your letters or his letters out to you? I know I would be going crazy wanting answers too. I hope everything works out. Does he call anyone, family members or friend you are in touch with who can ask him about the non visitation form?

I told his buddy about the form and he informed me that he was gonna ask my Johnnie about and call me back but he never did. So yesterday and today I wrote his friend to see what the deal is, besides sending letters to Johnnie. You never know over in Tehachapi when the inmates get their mail. Sometimes it could even take 2 weeks or more. But the day I talked to his friend, Im sure he talked to Johnnie, I should have gotten a call already. I've been the only one staying by his side since he has been there, family?.....ha!!!
<<<HOPING FOR A MIRACLE>>>
~*LOVE YOU JOHNNIE~*