Hi, I dont really like to talk about this alot but if it can help anyone then so be it. I was in a relationship with a man that started in 6/99. It was good and bad. During one of the bad moments I met another man who was my bf friend and intervined during a phsycal fight. We started to talk and in time I left my bf for the friend. WHAT A MISTAKE! He was very abusive and could control me just by looking at me. I had him locked up a number of times for DV. He rearended me @ 50 miles an hour while I was trying to et away from him, another for kiddnaping me at knife point, and other times for "just smacking me around". Well as dumb as I was I always went back. During the knife thing while he was locked up I went back to my ex and as luck would have we both got locked up on drug charges. While in, I made contact with the "boyfriend" so that he would take care of my stuff when he got out in a matter of days, and that he did, he sold so much of my stuff. Well it was just material, right? Well my guy got 3½ years and I got out, and like afool went back. With the understanding that if I was hit again I wuld leave this time for good! Well it didnt take lone and he was at it again. So i packed everythng in my car and left. I went to a bar to have a drink and try to figure out what to do adn he was there. I seen him leave but didnt see him come back in. I was alone at that bar and an old friend from years back called me over, I didnt dare go. My "boyfriend" came up and wanted a ride and I said no. he waited till closeing and with the owners help got me out side. When I wouldnt let him in the car he held the car door closed and wouldnt let me in either. As we argued i could see the owner looking and laughing. Then when I didnt expect it he grabed me by both sides of my face and said and I will never forget "YOU WILL NEVER KISS ANOTHER!!!" and bit me. With half my lip hanging he still took me to the hospital and tried in vain to say it was someone else in the parking lot that did it. He went to jail and now to prison. He got 10 years for it, which in my eyes is not nearly enough. I got married a year ago and cried so hard I because I couldnt wear lipstick. I dotn wear it on the norm but that was a special day. I just thank God that I didnt end up loosing my life and that the courts intervined otherwise I have no doubts I wuld either be still "trying " to make it work or be dead!
That is my story take what you want and leave the rest.

Wow beenthere, that's quite the story. Thank you for sharing. Does he try to contact you from prison either by letters or phone? He seems like the type of guy that would do that.

Omigod I am so sorry to hear that all this has happened to you. Thank you for sharing...

I can't believe that it really happened. I am so sorry to hear that it did, as much of a cliche as that must be. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

No one has the right to hit another,talk crap to a person to lower their self esteem always,treat with disrespect.........I say that now that im older but when I was younger I didnt think that way.I guess in my 40s im just tired of bs.When I 1st got married wed have some hellacious shouting matches over who knows what being on drugs,drinking.Id always end up in the drunk tank but no charges.Shed throw stuff if they hit ya youd be dead,I once choked her kinda sorta but never laid a hand on her other then that.Ive had bruises from her trying to hit me kinda deflecting her throws but she never landed a good one.Life like that is pure hell and id never go through it again for NOTHING.Shes mellowed alot,lol no drugs or alcohol but were still together 17 years later...........i dunno just reflecting.I was half guilty in all that just not her.

Thank you all, No he does not try to contact me, which is part of his game. He told me after prior incarcerations that he does not contact me so that way I dont know what he is thinking and that to me is scarier than anything. Right before he was sentanced to the 10 years he told the judge that he was going to set me on fire when he got out. "Give me what you want, whenever I get out I will come and set her on fire!" I was in the court room and when the judge sentanced him he turned and looked at me as if to say ... They didnt give me life. I should go on to say that he was married before and has 2 childern. Yet has had no contact with any family in more that 10 years. I asked him about his kids and wife and all he would ever say is that the kids lived with their aunt and that "I went to far". Looking at in hind sight I think he probably killed her. He has not one picture of any family member. I dont really know where he comes from as he was always changing the subject when asked.If I knew then what I know now...